Any viewer of the VH1 reality show, “T.I. and Tiny: The Family Hustle,” knows that T.I. and Tiny Harris’ marriage has been sailing on choppy waters for a while now. The couple was televised having dinner together when everything got a little too real.
Even though the couple has been very public about their troubles over the internet, (largely surrounding T.I.’s new girlfriend, Instagram model Bernice Burgos,) the couple’s meeting had a mature, loving tone.
“It just doesn’t make any sense to think that, you know, through a lifetime you won’t change,” Tiny begins. The entirety of the conversation is largely about this fact.
T.I. mentions the fact that they met when they were 22 and that a lot changes after 13 years of being together. “Any man will attest to the fact that the person they were in their early 20’s and the things they’ve learned through their late 20’s to get to their mid 30’s makes them a different person.”
Tiny hold her own with her response. “That’s funny that you say that cause it’s a contradiction… because when I grew from that, it’s a problem. It’s ‘not what you signed up for.’” T.I. responded reasonably with “that’s a fair point,” admitting that he may have been short-sighted.
“I think you’re a phenomenal person. We’ve had some of the best times of our lives together. And it does not hurt or insult me that at some point you grew to this point and I grew to this point,” T.I. tells his spouse of 13 years.
He continues, “I don’t think it’s either of our faults. So, ultimately, ain’t nothing else for us to do but split. I think it’s better for the kids. We can work together better now.”
In a solo interview, T.I. later told the cameras, “A part of me is happy to close this chapter because I feel we outgrew each other. She grew in a different direction and I did too.”
Evolutionarily speaking, we were never meant to remain with the same person for 60 years. as we evolve and grow, we require different things from different types of people. And in today’s society, the construct of marriage is viewed as a “forever” situation, even if that’s not what’s best for the people involved.
And “staying together for the kids” will actually do more harm than good, although it is a common occurrence these days. Two happy, separated parents are much better for a child’s wellbeing than two miserable, married ones. We wish these two the best of luck in their new chapters of life.